Aguy really wanted to have a child with his girlfriend, but she didn’t want to. He poked holes in the condom and she got pregnant. She later finds out how, gets justifiably angry, aborts, takes him to court, and then the Supreme Court of Nova Scotia said – sexual assault. Denunciation, and deterrence -18 months incarceration.

What would happen the roles were reversed? A woman wants to have a child but her boyfriend doesn’t? So, she stops taking her birth control and gets pregnant. He gets justifiably angry, but that’s where it ends for him, sort of – he may split up with her, but he’s punished by being forced to pay for child support for the next 18 years…

Does he go to the police and say it was sexual assault? Can he? Would the police take him seriously? Should all the women who have gotten pregnant this way be made available to serve their sentence to society? What denunciation and deterrence is appropriate, especially when it is the child and not the parent which has the right to receive financial support, even though the custodial parent has the right to use the received cash as they see fit.

Those questions have been asked for years without any meaningful answers, maybe there are none, or none that society is ready for…

Face it, ‘The Pill’ works. It is 99.9% effective in preventing pregnancy. Yet if we are to believe a UK report that of 1020 women who came in for an abortion, 240 asserted they were on birth control, then we are faced with cognitive dissonance which society seems to solve by believing in a lie. A figure of 240 unwanted pregnancies from 1020 women would represent just under 240,000 women – not 1020! There’s no way to know how many decided to continue the pregnancy, but based on those numbers it’s easy to know the number was a lot higher than 1020, so we know those women were lying about being on the pill – its obvious. The lie is an act of fraud, which is to tell a lie with the intent to cause prejudice. In this case they sought an abortion. Yet what happens when the same claim is made and they continue the pregnancy?  When a person claims to be on medication to prevent pregnancy, when they’re not, it is a deception. This deception is an assault on the other individual who trusted them and such a deception should be a punishable crime with denunciation and deterrence and perpetrators should be made to repay their debt to society – because it is a criminal deception, and we don’t tolerate or support such behaviour – yet we do…

In the Nova Scotia “Pinhole Condom Deception” the Canadian legal system treated pregnancy as a disease, (sort of). The mother became an infected host through exposure to the pathogen of sperm.  She, and by extension society, was awarded that tacit recognition of ‘pregnancy as disease’ by the Supreme Court of Nova Scotia.

Thus, we have an existential social construct that defends wide scale social violence and fraud by women against men – the very same construct that punishes men and protects their female assailants. It’s not that we don’t like babies or women, but we want to see justice for the victims of fraudsters and liars.

We need to look at the stigma that may be faced by children that were conceived as a result of such sexual assaults by women. We need a particular focus on men’s rights with regard to such overt acts of aggression and long-term effects of such fraud. Too many people struggle to realize that such sexual aggression by women is not just a men’s issue, it’s not just a cultural issue, but a political and human rights issue. Confronting such aggression is intimidating to understand. It requires a holistic approach. It is important to provide integrated mental health and economic support services to men who are victims of this aggression.

Or do we cowardly just ignore the crime, make a joke of it? Discount it out of existence?